Thursday, September 22, 2011

Connections

Of the 7 billion people on the planet, you are just one. You're an individual, a sole traveler on the journey of your life, surrounded by friends and family when young, yet you tend to feel alone, like no one understands you around the age of 20. There is just this feeling, residing within you that no one understands what you are going through, what you have personally endured. No one know who you are, they just know what you've done, or said. No one can read your mind, no one can hear the thoughts whizzing around inside your head.

But.. At the same time, you are part of a bigger picture. The most amazing picture in our world.. The interconnection of all life. You may not think about it much, having your own stresses and worries, your own hopes and thoughts and joys in your day to day routine. You may not think about the fact that someone else on the other side of the world, who doesn't even speak your language has affected your life. You may not think about the fact that everything you do, everything you buy and every interaction you make affects those around you.

In getting the food to your house you have already been affected by the people who prepared that food, or picked it, those who cleaned it, examined it to make sure it was (semi)edible, packed it, shipped it, accepted it, and then stocked it on the shelf. You have been affected by the cashier, and the people who made the bags you use to carry your groceries. Such a simple concept, a bag. You put several individual items into it that can be more easily carried, and suddenly, simply, you can carry far more than just with your hands. Someone thousands of years ago came up with that concept, before humanity even began. Even they affect your life, in their own way.

I first had this type of thought when I was 12. It shattered me in some ways... Not in a good way, not in a bad way. It just broke a lot of things at the time that seemed important, and shook the very foundation of the information I'd gleaned at the time. I had the thoughts while walking home from the store (Walmart), and I remember I was gazing up at the sky, thinking about what I wanted to do with my life. Suddenly, I started thinking about all the various jobs that exist in this world. Teachers, professors, accountants, lawyers, aides, stockers, cashiers, delivery drivers, sales reps, customer service representatives, managers, actors, actresses, carpenters, plumbers, factory workers, fast food people, hospitality people, bus drivers, cab drivers, airplane pilots, the entire military. It just seemed to spiral outward out of control, and I felt very insignificant.

Now, I don't feel as insignificant. I am part of my own life, as you are part of yours. If you died, someone would miss you. If you disappeared, someone would notice. Sure, the corporations, the nameless faceless organizations that seem to run our world wouldn't necessarily notice the loss, but other people would.

This world has such an abundance of opportunity. There are so many things to experience, to think of, to talk about, and yet people get bored. They want video games and funny cat pictures, hot models and “awesome athletes”. People want to be entertained. I'm entertained by thinking of things like this. Thinking of how similar we are to the trees we think are incapable of feeling.

No two leaves are exactly identical. No two trees go through the exact same thing. If you've ever felt the energy of a forest- by that I mean the very feelings it evokes within you, as opposed to nicely planted trees in a park that are all in parallel lines. But I guess what I am trying to say here is... No matter who you are, no matter what you're going through, someone has been where you are. Someone knows how you feel. Don't ever feel alone, you're part of something amazing and beautiful. Enjoy it!

Food Banks

So, I was going to just make a different blog for things I find to be awesome/inspiring/cool, and keep this one for just positive things in my life, but instead I decided to lump together all of it because it just works better that way, and I'm not cluttering up the infinite area of cyberspace with all my scattered ponderings. So, this one will be a wee bit different, but the beginning of a new era I hope you guys will appreciate. You guys being whoever actually happens to stumble across this.

That being said, this first one is about Food Banks. In a world wrought with such intense diversity, such painful difference in wealth, in financial stability even, it's always encouraging to realize that there are also people out there who realize how painful emotionally it is to be in such a stressful situation for long periods of time. People who can't afford food are not just limited to “welfare losers with too many kids” or the homeless. I've been a resident of the lower middle class.. Well, alright, I'll be honest with myself, I've been below poverty level all my life. Except when I worked at Wal-mart, but that's a totally different story.

At any rate, all kinds of people need food. I've been the sole provider for myself and two other people who were unemployed and essentially living off my wages.. and I wasn't aware that food banks are for people like that. I thought food banks are just for the elderly who are living off Social Security, or for the homeless, or people that close to poverty. Not me. I wasn't doing that bad! I was just having a bit of a tough time. It hadn't occurred to me at that point that for most of my childhood and adolescence as well as my adulthood, I was eligible for food banks. I mean, I was a kid for the most of that time anyway, so it didn't occur to me too much, beyond the times when I would go for weeks living on just walmart burritos and ramen noodles, or the giant pot of spaghetti that my dad made for the week, complete with meatballs.

I miss that spaghetti. He used a bit too much oregano, but it was delicious all the same.

Anyway, I guess what I'm saying is more people than we realize need food assistance. A lot of people are eligible or really should be on food stamps but don't know it or refuse to do it because of pride. I don't understand that, myself, putting pride before having a full stomach, and it makes me sad for the kids that affects. Malnutrition is not good at all. Take it from someone who knows.

I recently filled out an application to be a “paid volunteer” for this place, Northwest Portland Ministries. I really was looking forward to the interview because I have for a long time wanted to learn about how to hold food drives, and how to start up and run a food bank, etc. I'm really looking forward to helping them as much as I can and learning the intricate details of how running a place like that works.

They have a lot of different progams they run. A regular food cupboard, in the basement of this church, where you can go and essentially go shopping for free/with a voucher I think? I don't know the details of that yet. I got to see the place where they pack up the food boxes, they deliver about 10 a day, to about 80 people all together. (10 at a time, really, is how they do it apparently.) She really is hoping that with my help in making the system run better, they can raise the amount of people they deliver food boxes to to at least 100, if not more. That's per month. That's 80-100 people/households or whatever that are given assistance per month based on the goodness of people's hearts. 80-100 people's lives made better.

Then there's this really awesome program that I am just in awe of. It's called uhh... Food for Kids Backpacks or something. I don't remember specifics at the moment, this is all off the top of my head, forgive me.. Anyway what they do is they fill the backpack up with food and the kid takes it home. It helps people who can't afford food for the whole month. I was one of those kids who got free lunches for most of my schooling. I bet it would have helped me too, but my dad never asked for help.

That just made me so happy, so amazed and full of respect for the people who donate, or donate their time to help. I really can't wait to be able to help. I type at least 80 wpm, more like 85, 90 if I really try. I want to help them fix their system, and help them with the phones and with the organization of the food cupboard. (They already mentioned all that). I can't wait to start volunteering afterward too. (Note, I'm a paid volunteer through a program called PAVE, which helps homeless youths get job readiness training, and all kinds of awesome stuff. I'm getting paid for 75 hours of work over the course of 5-6 weeks, and it'll be helping me out too.

Anyway, food banks are amazing. I'm looking forward to learning how to do food drives for down the road.

Being A Mother

I never really thought I would be a mother. Three years ago I was terrified of the very concept. It's amazing how much can change so quickly. I'm 6 months along now, and enjoying most of it.. All the new experiences, the thoughts of the future.

A few things to women (and trans m-to-f's), I will point out about pregnancy before I get into what I can't wait to do with my child.

-Being kicked straight down is one of the most uncomfortable and shocking feelings I've experienced to date. It's like an odd sharp little twinge in a place you didn't know you had. The same thing happens when you get kicked in the ovary.
-Being kicked in the bladder when you already have to pee will most likely make your eyes cross. It's another uncomfortable, awkward feeling.
-One of the weirdest, most intense feelings ever though is when at around 6 months the baby decides to roll over in the womb after having been kicking you. You think they're just kicking again til something much larger hits your stomach.
-The baby kicking you is one of the most amazing experiences in the world. I can't begin to describe it.

I can't wait. I look forward to being a mother. To me, and in reality, raising a child is more than just growing a kid up. You are truly raising and forming a new human being. What you teach them when they are growing, from infant on up, the first six years are the most important. Whatever you teach them will affect them for life. They won't even necessarily know it.

I look forward to the experience, to the journey of teaching another living being all about this beautiful world we inhabit. I look forward to teaching him about nature, and how things are connected. How what you do affects your surroundings.

I look forward to teaching him how to cook eventually, I look forward to coming up with fun activities to do, fun games, coming up with things for Halloween, helping him come up with costumes. I look forward to yelling at his teachers when they make him feel bad for being different. I look forward to seeing how he develops, who he becomes.

I don't look forward to the screaming and crying at night, but I look forward to holding him, calming him down. I look forward to seeing his face for the first time, feeling him grab onto my finger. I look forward to watching him grow. I can't wait to be a mother.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Ahh, the little things..

I decided I need a mental pick me up... What better way than to for the first time in a while sit myself down and make myself think of things I want to do? Little things, big things, dreams and goals of all kinds. It doesn't matter if they can't work together or not. Who cares, right? Life is meant to be lived. And I want to live it.

I'm pregnant now... 6 months along or so. I'm due December 28th :)  It's going to be a boy, we're naming him Aedric.. and I'm not giving him up without a fight.

The oddest little things make me happy. Just stray thoughts, rolling around in my mind. Having candles on my "altar" in high school. Making macrame necklaces. Going for walks under the beautiful trees here, and in NY. For some reason, going to the store to get food for meals, and making it a game to see what I can get for the least money.

Beautiful, bright, vibrant, multicolored shirts. Complimenting people. Thinking about the future. Looking at the sky, at people around me, observing, thinking, noticing.

Living.

I have goals, dreams, ambitions, just like anyone else. Like other people, I keep them to myself.. And I find myself now, wondering why? Why is it that we hold what is dearest to us closest to our chest, hiding it from those who pass by? How many opportunities do we miss out on because we were too afraid to let go? I am going to try not to do that anymore.

I have so many little ideas for ways to make money, or make a difference. Ways to try to change the way people see the world, see each other. Part of that is my photography. I need to get some batteries soon, because I really want to start a few different projects.

I do still intend to do Project Identity. I might start at TPI, get to know some of the regulars there.  I need to come up with a short questionnaire for them.  I want to try to change the fact that people still see the homeless as a vast number of nameless, faceless people.  I want to try to change the world in a little tiny way. If even a few people change their views, I've made a difference. Either way, I will still have made a difference in a few people's lives.

I want to take pictures all around the world. I want to travel. I want to live near Seattle.

-I want to start a video game project with some friends, but I don't know how. I have the perfect scatterbrained anal retentive brain to be able to think vast and detailed. I want to try to bring people together on all these different projects. In this one I'd need writers for character profiles, bosses, I'd come up with the general plot myself. I'd need artists for the landscape, the bosses/bad guys and the NPCs and all the other stuff. I'd need to come up with quest lines etc... And I really, really want to. I just don't want to if no one else would be interested in helping me.

-I want to get my book started. I don't know where to begin but that is an amazing story, and I really want to write about it.. I just have to develop a work style, something to do every day, something different to keep me interested.  Maybe I'll do that first, come up with the questions I have for myself.. Or maybe it'd be best to start yet another blog and just... let it all out. Let people ask me questions and form homework for myself for the next day.  Whatever it is, I have to actually DO something and STICK WITH IT.

Another thing I want to do is help people understand their own dream and meditation symbolism. Maybe make a daily blog or something (or maybe weekly) to give people a starter for their meditation, and then have the people come together to share what they saw, or send me what they saw, and I could help them learn to interpret it?  Hmmm...

I want to be a bestselling novelist, and live up in the woods somewhere in a cabin, close enough to the city and stores to be able to shop with ease, but far enough away from humanity to feel refreshed, safe, calm.

I want to start a homeless shelter/day program.

I want to go to college for Psychology. Sociology. Physics. Writing. I want to learn. I want to grow.

I want to be a good mother :)

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Oh, what a date.

Yesterday was a pretty awesome day. Woke up and left shelter with Jason, we walked around a bit before I went to JRT and then he picked me up afterward. We went to the haberdashery (A gentleman's shop that sells awesome hats) and couldn't pick anything, we kept trying different things on for about an hour.. Then we went to pioneer mall for lunch. We ate chinese food and sat by the fountain talking about things we want to do to help give back to people, to help people in our situation get out of it when we manage to. We went to Lloyd center and he got a Nook and got me a deck of Archetype cards.. And we sat and chatted some more. If I didn't already love him, I fell in love with him yesterday. Not because of anything he did for me, money doesn't matter to me worth a damn. Because of the man he is, because of his actions, even the silent ones he doesn't know he does. He was trying so badly to impress me, it was endearing and sweet.

He's the one thing that I didn't think existed anymore. A decent man. In our society, the decent people get stepped on and beaten until they break, but he wasn't fragmented enough that I couldn't try to do anything to fix him. He's made mistakes in the past and beaten himself up for it for years.. And he doesn't even realize what a miracle he is. The fact that he's able to be what he is, do what he does, without trying or thinking or conniving. It's amazing. I love him. We just sat in a park under a tree in the rain talking about shelter, we talked about everything that matters and more. He took me to Mama Mia's and we had a candlelit dinner, and he had the same idea for the tip as me. We confused the waiter and annoyed him enough to give us 8 ones back XD

I would say he's the only person in the world I feel like I can be myself around without any shields, but I'd be lying a little. He is a great guy. A good friend, and a good man to love.. But with love comes pain. With people comes stress and betrayal. He betrayed my trust a few times while we were just friends, and I know that given time I can release the pain, I just don't know how and it breaks my heart. I feel horrible about the fact that for some reason I can't psychologically let go of great pain. I seem to thrive on it.. and I don't like it. I thrive on hugs and love and care as well, but I always am waiting for the kick in the face, the knife in the back, the ultimate betrayal to happen yet again. Even though I know he didn't do any of it on purpose. And I hate myself for not being able to just be happy.


I found out things about him last night that forever solidified him in my mind as being a good, decent man. Things that made me love him more than before.

For a first date, it was a really good day.